"What would be most life-giving for my family?", is the question I am asking when it comes to decisions about our schedule, choices for involvements and guidelines for living. I am more habitual at asking questions like, "What is working best for everyone else?" or "What do I wish I could manage?" or "What did I always envision for myself and my family?" or "What must I do to keep up, and not lag behind?" None of these are bad considerations, yet I've allowed them to muddy the waters of my mind, until I feel pulled into multiple scenarios. Until I find myself forcing our family into a predetermined mold, whatever the price, since this is what we are "supposed to be" or how it's "supposed to look."
Asking, "What would be most life-giving for us, here and now?" feels liberating.
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Write your concern, question down. Ask the question. State the goal. Have a plan. Create sub-goals which are concrete, measurable, time-based. Include potential barriers or setbacks. Tell others about your goals. Remind yourself of the benefits of achieving your goals. Reward yourself as you achieve a sub goal. Keep a log of your progress. Aim at something and you're sure to hit it. Right?
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